What is the difference between the two?
Yes, to many people there is no difference, sex has the same effect and that is if there is anything like love making. To get more insight about these two terms “love making" and "sex” I went further to have a close interview with people who are more likely exposed to the terms and below is the analysis.
My interview with a young university student made me know that sex can be termed “satisfaction” she said that the term love making doesn't exist. She said that all she need from a man is the sexual satisfaction and a man who will deeply fuck her.
I interviewed her further and in the process I found out that Lisa might actually be one of these emotionally damaged teenagers.
I got to a guest house and there I met this couple, you can never deny the fact that they are perfect match. They were all over each other and to crown it all, they stayed in the guest house for five days, and little did they come out of there room. They stayed in making love, I guess. I marked them as “to be client of mine” but I didn't know how to pull through the plan. After a long time of planning and trying I was able to have a meeting with the couple.
I asked them what the think about having sex with each other and below were their answers:
The man: I last had sex 4 years ago and now the thought of doing that with my queen is heartbreaking. He said that sex is not in his dictionary any longer. He made me know that all he was looking forward to from the day he said “I do” at the alter was to make sweet love to his wife. He made me realize that love making is different from sex.
The wife: she said that lovemaking is sincere and that she is secured and that is all that her heart, soul and body wants……. And in these speeches of theirs I was able to define love making as “the feeling of security”
So far I never got a satisfying answer from my clients and that pained me. People most time fail to understand the fact that these two were made to go together for the love to be strong. I don't believe in sex alone and I can't as well believe in love making if the sexual chemistry between the partners isn't good enough. Love making in my personal opinion is that “I love you" contact with each other. It is like the lubrication used when expecting sex and before that the penetration [sex] starts. It is like a signature. You are telling each other that you are coming. Love making includes the kissing, pampering, smooching, touching and intense feelings of pleasure and sparks all over the body but it shouldn't necessarily revolve round the sex. Sex actually means penetration; so therefore, using the sexual organs to satisfy each other. During that time there might be or there might not be feelings of love and even if the love is there it wont be so strong to pass through the length of time.
Nobody in their right senses will want to have sex without kissing and having bodily contact with each other and this is because I believe there is no fire/ intense pleasure to be felt in a hair casual sex that exempts love from the equation. The sparks and soul warming satisfaction builds up when the saliva mixes in a hair-raising, heart-throbbing and spine-tingling kiss and the romancing each others body, and that is what I call the beauty and power of love making and successful sexual satisfaction. Even one night stands and night hustlers do make love but does that at the risk of their hearts and with the believe that there is and will not be strings attached. This pile up of emotion is sensational…….I must say.
Love making is sacred and in short I will explain it to be the same as writing a love letter with signature while sex is like a letter without signature identifying the writer….
Sex is empty handed, all you feel is the inward and outward thrusting of the sex organs. There is no feeling of “I trust him, I love him, I believe in him, I want to leave myself for him, I am committing myself to you forever. Forget the word we say when we are having sex, because those are like words of a drunkard but in this case the participants are drunk on the very potent hormonal cocktail that the brain releases during intercourse.
The real thing there happens when you decide to let yourself feel the pleasure; apart from that even the intense stimulation of the various erogenous zones is useless because you won’t be able to have that feeling one of oneness, safety, security and all around wholesomeness.
I remembered what an individual I once interviewed told me, he said that one can feel absolute paralysis during sex [which is claimed to be sweeter than honey] if you cannot let your guards down and feel the sweetness in it. And this his speech made me to bring up this example….
At times we can have an itch in the foot, the itchiness can be so unbearable that we will feel like scratching it. Scratching it will make us to feel this crazy intense sweetness that we wont want to stop scratching until every element of sweetness in it stops.
So therefore:
Sex = unbearable itchiness
Love making =crazy sweetness
Love making/sex x 100/1
Love making x sex = 100% satisfaction and long lasting love and relationship.
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